0:00 A Harvard study found that we spend forty-seven percent of our waking hours thinking about something other than what we’re actually doing.0:12 Almost half your life, lost in thought.0:15 In episode ninety-five, we talked about affirmations for real growth.0:21 Today is different.0:23 Today isn’t about growth.0:25 It’s about what you do when you can't grow, when you can't move, when all you can do is be right here, in this moment, exactly as you are.0:37 Because the hardest days aren't the ones where you fail at a big goal.0:43 They're the ones where you feel like you're failing at just...0:49 being.0:49 The days you wake up already tired.0:53 Already behind.0:54 Already judging yourself for not being better, stronger, further along.1:00 So today, we’re not going to push.1:03 We’re not going to strive.1:05 We are going to stand still.1:08 And we are going to say things that are so deeply true they might just crack you open.1:16 Here is the first one.1:17 I want you to try it on.1:20 Say it out loud if you can.1:22 My only job today is to be right where I am.1:26 That’s it.1:27 That’s the whole job description.1:30 Not to fix the mess in the kitchen.1:33 Not to solve the problem at work.1:36 Not to finally become the person you think you should be.1:41 Just this.1:42 Just being here.1:43 In this body.1:44 In this room.1:45 In this un-finished, imperfect, completely okay moment.1:50 This isn’t giving up.1:52 It’s a cease-fire.1:54 You’ve been fighting a war against your own reality for so long.1:59 A war against your circumstances, your feelings, your own timeline.2:05 What if, for the next twenty-four hours, you declared peace?2:10 What if you let reality win?2:13 Not because it broke you, but because you chose to stop fighting it.2:19 Your only job is to be right where you are.2:23 Let that sink in.2:24 It’s permission.2:26 It’s freedom.2:27 Okay.2:27 Here’s the second one.2:29 This is for when the feelings come.2:32 The big ones.2:33 The ones you’ve been taught to swallow, or fix, or run from.2:39 I am allowed to feel this, without needing to fix it.2:43 Feel the weight of that word.2:46 Allowed.2:47 You are allowed to feel sad.2:49 You are allowed to feel angry.2:52 You are allowed to feel lost, or confused, or just… blah.2:57 These feelings are not problems to be solved.3:01 They are not error messages in your code.3:04 They are signals.3:06 They are part of your guidance system.3:09 They are messengers, and for years you’ve been shooting the messenger.3:15 Today, you invite the messenger in for tea.3:19 You listen.3:20 You don’t have to agree with everything it says.3:24 You don’t have to let it redecorate your house.3:29 But you have to let it speak.3:31 "Hello, sadness.3:33 I see you.3:34 You are allowed to be here." "Hello, anxiety.3:37 I feel you.3:38 You don’t need to be fixed right now." This is radical self-compassion.3:45 It’s looking at the parts of yourself you’ve been told are ugly or broken and saying, "You belong, too." And that brings us to the last one.3:57 This one might be the hardest, because it goes against EVERYTHING the world screams at you, every single day.4:07 My worth is not in what I produce; it is in what I am.4:11 Read that again in your head.4:14 My worth is not in my to-do list.4:17 Not in my bank account.4:19 Not in my job title, my clean house, my perfect parenting, my side hustle, my follower count.4:27 All of that is output.4:29 All of that is what you DO.4:32 It is not who you ARE.4:33 You had inherent worth the second you were born.4:38 Before you could achieve anything.4:41 Before you could impress anyone.4:44 You were enough, right then.4:46 And you are enough, right now.4:49 The world has just spent a lifetime trying to sell you a lie.4:54 The lie that your value is conditional.4:57 That you have to earn your place on this planet.5:02 You don’t.5:03 You are not a human doing.5:05 You are a human being.5:07 And your being is the whole point.5:10 Your worth is the quiet hum of existence underneath all the noise.5:16 It’s there when you succeed.5:18 It’s there when you fail.5:20 It does not change.5:22 It is ABSOLUTE.5:23 So today, when you feel that pressure to perform, to prove yourself, to justify your existence through action… I want you to stop.5:35 Put your hand on your heart.5:37 And remember.5:38 My only job is to be right where I am.5:42 I am allowed to feel this, without needing to fix it.5:47 My worth is not in what I produce; it is in what I am.5:51 The goal was never to become some better, shinier, more perfect version of yourself.5:59 The real journey, the only one that ever mattered, was the journey back home.6:06 To the person you were, all along.
