0:00 The human body replaces ninety-eight percent of its atoms every single year.0:06 You are, quite literally, not the same person you were twelve months ago.0:13 In our last episode, we talked about building a foundation of self-compassion.0:20 Today, we put that foundation to the test.0:24 Because today is about what you do when the ground itself starts to shift.0:30 When everything feels uncertain, and you need an anchor.0:35 Here are five things to hold onto.0:38 Say them.0:39 Feel them.0:40 They are true.0:41 First.0:42 "I don't have to like this change to navigate it well." Let that one sink in.0:49 You do not have to pretend this is fine.0:52 You don't have to put on a brave face or find a silver lining when all you see is cloud.1:00 Your only job is to acknowledge what IS.1:04 This is hard.1:05 This is uncomfortable.1:07 This is not what you chose.1:10 Okay.1:10 Good.1:10 Honesty is the starting point.1:13 Think of it like walking through a storm.1:17 You don't have to enjoy the rain to find an umbrella.1:22 You don't have to praise the thunder to keep putting one foot in front of the other.1:29 Your job is not to love the storm.1:32 It's to walk through it.1:34 Second.1:35 "I release my grip on what I cannot control, and I focus my energy on what I CAN." This isn't a metaphor.1:44 This is an action.1:46 I want you to find a piece of paper.1:49 Right now.1:50 Draw a line down the middle.1:53 On the left, write down everything you have zero power over.1:58 Another person's decision.2:00 The economy.2:01 What happened yesterday.2:04 Be ruthless.2:05 Get it all out.2:06 Now, on the right, write what you DO control.2:10 Your next breath.2:12 The choice to go for a walk.2:14 The words you use when you talk to yourself.2:18 What you will eat for lunch.2:21 Who you call for support.2:23 The list on the right is small, but it is MIGHTY.2:27 Okay.2:28 Now look at the list on the left...2:31 and I want you to tear it up.2:33 Or burn it.2:34 Your energy does not live there anymore.2:38 It lives on the right.2:40 Third.2:41 "I have navigated uncertainty before.2:44 I will navigate it now." Your mind will tell you this time is different.2:50 That this is the one that will finally break you.2:55 Your mind is a liar.2:57 It's trying to protect you with fear, but it's forgetting the evidence.3:03 And the evidence is YOU.3:05 You are sitting here today with a one hundred percent success rate of surviving every single hard day you have ever had.3:16 Think back to a time you were sure it was the end.3:20 A loss, a failure, a moment of pure terror.3:24 You made it.3:25 That past version of you, the one who was so scared and so lost, is the hero who got you here.3:34 They built the strength, the wisdom, the resilience you are using this very moment.3:41 You've done this before.3:43 You are doing it now.3:45 Fourth.3:46 "My stability is not in my circumstances.3:50 It is in me." We get this so backward.3:53 We think stability is a job, a house, a relationship, a number in a bank account.4:00 But all of those things can disappear overnight.4:05 They are external.4:06 They are fragile.4:08 So where is real stability?4:10 It's your ability to learn.4:13 It's your core values.4:15 It's your breath.4:16 Right now.4:17 Breathe in.4:18 And out.4:19 That rhythm?4:20 That is stability.4:21 It's portable.4:23 It's yours.4:24 When everything outside of you is shaking, you find the unshakable thing INSIDE you.4:31 And you hold on.4:33 And finally, number five.4:35 "This ending is also a beginning.4:38 I am open to what is next." This is the hardest one, because it requires hope.4:45 But notice the wording.4:47 It doesn't say you're excited.4:50 It doesn't say you're happy.4:52 It just says you are OPEN.4:54 You can grieve what you've lost and still be curious about what's to come.5:01 The two feelings can live in the same heart, at the same time.5:07 A forest after a fire is a scene of devastation, yes.5:11 But that very ash creates the most fertile soil imaginable for new life.5:18 You are standing on scorched earth.5:21 It hurts.5:22 But it is also the most fertile ground you have ever known.5:27 The person you were yesterday got you here.5:31 Thank them.5:32 They did their best.5:34 But they are not the person who will get you through tomorrow.5:39 That person is being forged right now, in this fire, in this uncertainty.5:46 This isn't a breakdown.5:48 It's a re-shaping.5:50 You are not falling apart.5:52 You are becoming.
